Final Thoughts on the matter…

After many conversations with each other and all of our loved ones, Arann and I have decided to still have our “celebration” as planned on the 4th of April. We came to this decision because the meaning of the day remains the same: we would like all of our loved ones to help us celebrate the fact that we plan to spend the rest of our lives together.

But because we do not want to be involved in an institution that does not grant equality to all, we do not want to be legally married. So we are not exactly sure what we our legal title will be because we are applying for a domestic partnership application, even though you can not be domestic partners unless you are homosexuals or at least one of you is a senior citizen.


So it seems to me that this battle over the meaning of marriage is very similar to the days of racial segregation, before the civil rights movement in the 60’s, when we had separate water fountains for black people and white people. Today, at least in California, everyone is still allowed to drink water from some kind of fountain, but unfortunately the water fountains are still separate and not exactly equal.

So Arann and I are going to try and do what ever we can to help work for equal access to water fountains/marriage for all, and we hope to one day be either married or domestic partners. It doesn’t matter to us what the legal title is, as long as we belong to a group that does not discriminate against anyone.


About the author paige green

Paige Green is a documentary and portrait photographer, whose storytelling approach to photography frequently addresses issues involving agriculture, land use, and food. Her work is featured in nine books and has been published in Glamour, National Geographic Traveler, New York Times Magazine, Conde Nast Traveler, GQ, Country Living, House Beautiful, and Culture. Paige lives in Petaluma, CA with a house full of boys.

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  1. Sorry, I had to copy you Paige and put this post on my blog too!


  2. Hey Paige, I thought your post on the massacre that is Prop 8 was the most well-written, soulful post of all of the ones I came across. And then I found this video yesterday and I think what I want to say is a mix between your calm presence and his anger! Thanks for sharing this video with people.


  3. i hadn’t seen this until just now.
    thank you, you little sweetheart, for posting it.
    he is extremely well-spoken.


  4. I thought I had responded to this but then I came back and there was more? Or I missed it before? And my comment is gone or I imagined the whole thing. Anyway, I am so excited for your celebration. And I love your heart.


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