After many conversations with each other and all of our loved ones, Arann and I have decided to still have our “celebration” as planned on the 4th of April. We came to this decision because the meaning of the day remains the same: we would like all of our loved ones to help us celebrate the fact that we plan to spend the rest of our lives together.
But because we do not want to be involved in an institution that does not grant equality to all, we do not want to be legally married. So we are not exactly sure what we our legal title will be because we are applying for a domestic partnership application, even though you can not be domestic partners unless you are homosexuals or at least one of you is a senior citizen.
So it seems to me that this battle over the meaning of marriage is very similar to the days of racial segregation, before the civil rights movement in the 60’s, when we had separate water fountains for black people and white people. Today, at least in California, everyone is still allowed to drink water from some kind of fountain, but unfortunately the water fountains are still separate and not exactly equal.
So Arann and I are going to try and do what ever we can to help work for equal access to water fountains/marriage for all, and we hope to one day be either married or domestic partners. It doesn’t matter to us what the legal title is, as long as we belong to a group that does not discriminate against anyone.